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Limitless Monday – Make up your freaking mind!
Indecision is all around us.
Decisions are part of life. However many of us put off decision making for as long as humanly possible.
Hence the word procrastinator, and the less pleasant term ditherer, someone who dithers, the most annoying kind of human being.
If you were sprinting towards a boar, spear in hand, you had to act quickly and decisively, or the boar would be eating our loincloth-wearing ancestor for dinner.
As the barista took our order, I already knew what I wanted almost from the point of entering the store.
My friend, however, left the decision until the last possible minute, going through the entire drinks menu before finally deciding on a London Fog.
This isn’t a one-off event for my friend.
The same indecision is present whenever she orders at a restaurant, shops in a clothes store, or simply tries to decide which garment to wear on a night out.
The funny thing is, it doesn’t matter how much I complain and explain how she might consider a more productive approach,
I may as well be talking to a tree trunk. I have also noticed during my pondering on this subject that those who suffer from indecision also suffer from its big uglier brother, no-decision.
I break into a hot sweat if I can’t make up my mind at my normal rapid speed.
There are no bad decisions.
I can hear the odd smart-ass saying to themselves, “Of course there are bad decisions, I am not reading this crap any longer!”.
So let me clarify: there are obviously a few bad decisions, such as deciding to murder your neighbor, or choosing to shoot the mother-in-law.
I am, however, talking in the normal course of life by a relatively sane person.
Here is a quick personal story.
The negative thought of investing my life savings into a venture which could swallow my money without even burping was hard to overcome.
The idea of a monthly salary with no stress seemed more appealing, even though I had rebelled against that all my life.
After much contemplation, I jumped and bought a female-only health club for $250,000. I was in the health and fitness business baby!
The world seemed so bleak, when the day before it had been full of possibilities.
That first weekend a bunch of members demanded their money back, the mirror in the studio broke, and the water in the showers was cold.
I had a serious case of buyer’s remorse.
And considering I was an accountant and it was my first solo venture, I should have done and known better.
But as I scold myself now for that bad investment decision, I recall what that one crucial decision actually led to. And this is why any decision is better than no-decision.
I therefore went looking for another small chain of gyms to merge with, with the intention of managing their finances and their team running the operations.
That decision led to meeting a business partner, who after completing the merger shockingly explained to me that gyms were no longer the business to be in; they were too competitive.
Stockbroking was the new game in town.
It was just before 9/11. I remortgaged my apartment, sold my sports car, and invested all my available resources into a stockbroking business with my new partner.
Together with my business partner, Andrew, we made tens of millions of dollars.
That was all made possible by that first decision. Yes it could have been a better decision, and it probably caused me more stress than was necessary.
But guess what: it doesn’t matter.
If I had continued to put off my dream, my life would not have been so rich in adventure, fun, and opportunity.
If you are one of those people who I described above, then you clearly have a mental block when it comes to making decisions. Don’t worry, many of us have the same tendency.
But we must overcome this if we are to achieve our goals in life.
Start with the smallest decision you are presented with, and make it fast.
With practice you will get better.
Decision making is an art form.
Make that first step today, however small. When the wheels of your decision start turning there will be no stopping them, but don’t fret, that is when the adventures begin!
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